Forgive or punish: what is the right thing to do?

Many times in our lives we find ourselves in a situation where a behavior of someone else fills us with bitter sentiments like anger, insult, sense of injustice. betrayal, etc. Although the variety of such situations is really big, at the end of the day the feelings that they provoke are rather limited. As human beings (which under a rather simplistic view we are the most advanced animal from all the creatures of nature) we usually have two options; either strike back to the one that is responsible for all these feelings with some form of punishment or forgive this behavior and let it go. What is the right thing to do? Welcome to one of the toughest questions in the whole history of mankind!

A basic assumption and therefore criterion as to what reaction to choose is that we have feelings for the person that hurt us. If no feelings are involved then there should not be any lasting bitter sentiments to begin with, so the situation is rather simple. But if we feel something for the other part then things can get complicated. The complexity is related to the intense of our feelings and the type of relationship we have with our “target”. (e.g. family, spouse, friend, etc).

Then we should examine whether this behavior was done on purpose or it was just a mere human fault. If it was due to a “hot head” moment, if it was because of lack of crucial information, if it was because of miscalculated thoughts etc then the person could deserve a chance to be forgiven.

Last we should estimate and judge the importance of this person in our life. Do we really want him/her as part of our network? Do we mind if we loose him/her? Is there enough trust left between us or can it be repaired? If the answer to all the above questions is negative then the punishment scenario gains ground again.

It really adds up to how our decision makes us feel. Since we posses the gift of judgment we have to see how either reaction (punishment or forgiveness) will make us feel in the long term and not in the short term. The above questions can only act as draft guidelines to assist our thinking process. After all each situation is unique, and we are solely responsible for our decisions.

Spare the rod…??

They say spare the rod and spoil the child; but how far or less to go with this statement I suppose will always be a matter up for debate. Parents and teachers always have differences in regards to how far spanking and corporal punishment should be handled in schools.

So the question is what mistakes should prompt corporal punishment? This is an issue that has been discussed all over the world and your guess is as good as mine: the opinions raised here are vast and we will be expecting to much from people with different sets of thinking and beliefs from totally varied backgrounds to agree fully on this. There have been lots of gay spanking videos that also show corporal punishment movies.

The most recent case reported on this is that of an eight year old girl in Kenya who was beaten to death for failing to read a complete statement in English! This left me really puzzled and questioning: is it really worth it to loose such a young life full of dreams and ambition in the name of corporal punishment??

That said, my take is this: spanking and corporal punishment directed to children for luck of respect and any form of indiscipline is okay for taking corrective measures to mold the character of a child. Instilling knowledge and intelligence growth only requires patience and understanding!

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There are a lot of different crimes that seem to have a number of different punishments, with some of these punishments seeming very harsh for the crime committed, while others seem far too lenient. Crimes and their punishments have changed a lot over the years and they will continue to change all the time.

Here we are taking a little bit of a look at the history of crimes and the punishments that have been dished out along the way. We also take a look at how different countries deal with different crimes in different ways. Who is doing things the right way? Well we guess that is just a matter of opinion.